You have probably heard people throw around the phrase, “I have to fire my AA sponsor.” While this is not the most tactful way of putting things, essentially, it means that you have decided that the sponsor you have been working with isn’t working out. Sponsors play a vital role in recovery, especially for those participating in 12-step programs. However, the sponsor/sponsee relationship must be healthy and effective. If this is not the case for you, here is a guide on when and how to fire your AA sponsor.
Switching sponsors is a perfectly OK thing to do – as long as your motives are pure. So, what is meant by that? Well, are you changing sponsors because the first one is being too hard on you? Maybe they’re doing a good job at keeping you accountable.
Addiction recovery is challenging, and it can be easy to become easily frustrated with a sponsor if they’re being strict and keeping you in line. To prevent you from making a mistake, below are common signs of a bad sponsor to look out for:
Breaking up with your AA sponsor in recovery can feel similar to parting ways with a close friend. However, considering that the relationship is centered on supporting your sobriety, it’s not worth sticking things out if you aren’t benefiting from the relationship the way you need to be.
Don’t end things via text or email. Even though confrontation might make you nervous, this is a conversation you should have in person and in private with the individual.
Thank them for their time, and simply let them know that you think it’s best to move on. You might continue seeing this person in future 12-step meetings, but there’s no reason to feel guilty or embarrassed. Anyone participating in a 12-step group knows that sobriety comes first, and sponsor-sponsee relationships are designed to support this.
If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, our Pompano rehab center can help. We offer various addiction treatment programs and have helped thousands of people in different communities recover.
If you want to know how to find an AA sponsor or want more information about our levels of addiction treatment, call Banyan Treatment Centers today at 888-280-4763 or send us your contact information.
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